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One of my best friends brought this topic one day ( and I really thank her), this is a very interesting topic for modern , new breed women.
Using the word “alpha” and “beta” is inhumane of course, but we need to face it sometimes human behave like animal too instead of behaving like homo sapiens. Okay, let’s begin with comprehension, what is alpha personality? In a pack of wolf, the alpha is the one who has the privilege to eat first and to mate first among the other. What is alpha personality in human being?
The term "alpha male/female" is sometimes applied to humans to refer to a man who is powerful through his/her courage and a competitive, goal-driven, "take charge" attitude. With their bold approach and confidence "alpha males/female" are often described as charismatic. While "alpha males/females" are often overachievers and recognized for their leadership qualities, their aggressive tactics and competitiveness can also lead to resentment by others. (source : wikipedia)
Talking about resentment, they also found that for each 16-point rise in a woman’s IQ, her marriage prospects declined by 40%, but the man’s chances of marriage increased by 35% with each rise. read more
So, can a relationship between alpha female and beta male works? Experience talk, I had some alpha-alpha relationship where there are two heads want to take charge of everything, for several times the relationship didn’t work. It only consumed a lot of energy and drove our relationship into a very exhausting one, naturally one of them must lead and the other need to follow. Well if this alpha-alpha thing is already on your case, spare a big room to fit two tremendous ego then. I bet you will need more space for yourself and vice versa.
Now expand your mind, I didn’t mention specific gender on leadership role, either male or female can have this quality and no rule tells that one of them should be always 100% in charge of everything all the time. You can always exchange leadership position once in a while. Everybody needs a day off, even for a leader.
Now, if you’re talking about money, about female breadwinner, I have no comment on which way is the right way in a relationship. If you and your couple had issue on who’s making bigger income, maybe it’s time to re evaluate your value , mission ,vision and perspective about money. Because I think human is not a tool to make money , but money should work as a tool for human happiness. If you happy with the way you are, less or more, than let it be. Happiness is the final goal for each person. The only problem is the stereotype in our society, we were told (or may I say brainwashed) since we’re a kid that a man should provide his wife. Again, re evaluate your entire value and anything that has been told to you; has them had any relevance on your own description of happiness?